It would be great if you could meet people in the so-called normal way. That means going out to the bar, or to a coworkers party; through friends or whatever other way people often meet each other. The fact is, a lot of people, especially with disabilities, have shied away from these methods. Instead, they’ve opted to try disabled dating online. If you’ve never done online dating, you might be confused about how to get started. If you’re curious and ready to give it a chance, we’ve got a step-by-step guide to disabled dating. This is your tool to success in snagging that special someone.
1. Site Selection – While there are a great deal of good sites out there, it can be hard to filter through the bad ones. A good bench mark for most people is that paid sites are often more legitimate. They offer a screening of sorts because anyone looking to cat-fish or scam probably isn’t willing to pay to do so. But, that’s not to say that all free sites aren’t legitimate. There are many great websites out there. The best piece of advice is to follow your instinct when it comes to making a choice. Of course, you can join more than one of them if you’d like. You can tried the paid and the free sites and see what works better for you. That’s all your choice. But if a website seems to be haphazardly put together, it’s not going to be a website worth investing your time or hope into.
2. Profile Set Up – Once you’ve found the site(s) you want to join, it’s time to set up your dating profile. You want to be clear and descriptive of both your personality and your disability. You may feel adding information about your disability will prevent people from wanting to contact you. It may work that way for some, but at least you’ll have peace of mind that those who still contact you are genuinely interested. You don’t want to build a relationship with someone to have them take off when they find out about your disability.
So be up front. Don’t fill your profile with generic statements about the vague things you enjoy doing. Be very specific. If you like taking walks, try saying what kind of scenery you like while doing so. Don’t just say you like movies, list some of your favorite movies and why you love them. This helps you to find people are more compatible to your personality. Someone who sees your detailed profile will be more likely to contact you. On your profile, you should also be descriptive of what you’re looking for. If you want a long term relationship, a hook up, or even just friendship. This will help to screen out the people who may not be looking for the same thing as you.
3. Take Time – Before you make arrangements to run off and meet someone from the internet, make sure you spent enough time getting to know them. Yes, we can never truly get to know someone from behind a computer screen, but, we can get to know about them. You want to know this person is genuinely interested in you and isn’t just some creep. If you spend a couple days, even weeks, talking, you’ll get a better idea of what they’re looking for. It’s important to know what you’re both looking for before making arrangements as well. Just in case those needs aren’t compatible. You may have thought you were until you started talking more in depth about the things you enjoy. Also, you want to put time into safely making arrangements for your first date. Research locations, stay out in the public, have an escape plan. Be safe.
After those three steps, the rest relies on your personality and charm. You’ve just got to be confident in yourself and what you have to offer the dating world.